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1 Kings  11: 3
He had seven hundred wives of royal birth and three hundred concubines, and his wives led him astray.
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Genesis  2: 18 - 25
18 The Lord God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." 
19 Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the beasts of the field and all the birds of the air. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name.  20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds of the air and all the beasts of the field. But for Adam no suitable helper was found. 
21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh.  22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. 
23 The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman, for she was taken out of man." 
24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.  25 The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame. 

Deuteronomy  24: 5
5 If a man has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him. For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married. 

Proverbs  5: 18 - 20
18 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. 
19 A loving doe, a graceful deer—may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love. 
20 Why be captivated, my son, by an adulteress? Why embrace the bosom of another man's wife? 


Proverbs  18: 22
22 He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord. 

Song of Songs  4: 1 - 7
1 How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful! Your eyes behind your veil are doves. Your hair is like a flock of goats descending from Mount Gilead. 
2 Your teeth are like a flock of sheep just shorn, coming up from the washing. Each has its twin; not one of them is alone. 
3 Your lips are like a scarlet ribbon; your mouth is lovely. Your temples behind your veil are like the halves of a pomegranate.  
4 Your neck is like the tower of David, built with elegance; on it hang a thousand shields, all of them shields of warriors. 
5 Your two breasts are like two fawns, like twin fawns of a gazelle that browse among the lilies.  
6 Until the day breaks and the shadows flee, I will go to the mountain of myrrh and to the hill of incense.  
7 All beautiful you are, my darling; there is no flaw in you. 


Song of Songs  5: 2 - 8
2 I slept but my heart was awake. Listen! My lover is knocking: "Open to me, my sister, my darling, my dove, my flawless one. My head is drenched with dew, my hair with the dampness of the night."  
3 I have taken off my robe— must I put it on again? I have washed my feet— must I soil them again? 
4 My lover thrust his hand through the latch-opening; my heart began to pound for him.  
5 I arose to open for my lover, and my hands dripped with myrrh, my fingers with flowing myrrh, on the handles of the lock.  
6 I opened for my lover, but my lover had left; he was gone. My heart sank at his departure. I looked for him but did not find him. I called him but he did not answer.  
7 The watchmen found me as they made their rounds in the city. They beat me, they bruised me; they took away my cloak, those watchmen of the walls!  
8 O daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you—if you find my lover, what will you tell him? Tell him I am faint with love. 


Matthew  5: 31 - 32
31 "It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.'  32 But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery. 

Matthew  19: 7 - 12
7 "Why then," they asked, "did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?" 
8 Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning.  9 I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery." 
10 The disciples said to him, "If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry." 
11 Jesus replied, "Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given.  12 For some are eunuchs because they were born that way; others were made that way by men; and others have renounced marriage because of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it." 

Mark  10: 5 - 9
5 "It was because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote you this law," Jesus replied.  6 "But at the beginning of creation God 'made them male and female.'  7 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,  8 and the two will become one flesh.' So they are no longer two, but one.  9 Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate." 

Luke  16: 18
18 "Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery. 

Romans  7: 2 - 6
2 For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage.  3 So then, if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress, even though she marries another man. 
4 So, my brothers, you also died to the law through the body of Christ, that you might belong to another, to him who was raised from the dead, in order that we might bear fruit to God.  5 For when we were controlled by the sinful nature, the sinful passions aroused by the law were at work in our bodies, so that we bore fruit for death.  6 But now, by dying to what once bound us, we have been released from the law so that we serve in the new way of the Spirit, and not in the old way of the written code. 

1 Corinthians  7: 1 - 17
1 Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry.  2 But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.  3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.  4 The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.  5 Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.  6 I say this as a concession, not as a command.  7 I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. 
8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am.  9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. 
10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband.  11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. 
12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her.  13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him.  14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. 
15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.  16 How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife? 
17 Nevertheless, each one should retain the place in life that the Lord assigned to him and to which God has called him. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches. 

1 Corinthians  7: 28
28 But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this. 

1 Corinthians  11: 3
3 Now I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God. 

Ephesians  5: 21 - 33
21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. 
22 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.  23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.  24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her  26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,  27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.  28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.  29 After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church—  30 for we are members of his body.  31 "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."  32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.  33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. 

1 Peter  3: 7
7 Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.